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The Archan Story

Today I wanted to share something that has been a large part of my Second Life over the latter part of this year. Since some time in April or May of 2006 – the exact date I don’t recall – I have been the head manager at the Archan Free Sex community in Second Life. Sounds like one of “those” places, doesn’t it? Debauchery, endless pixel sex, the decline and fall of the Linden Empire, the destruction of all that is creative and holy in SL, right?

If that’s what you’re thinking, I’ll disagree. We have striven to be an open community where people can explore virtual fantasies that they would never have the courage to try in reality. The anonymity and fantasy setting of Second Life makes it relatively safe for such exploration. Men who may have suppressed strong curiosity or desire about what it is to be female. Women who have had the darkest fantasies about domination but could never vocalize them. Physically impaired people whose bodies may not be whole, but whose natural sex drive is still alive. Those and more find open expression in a world like Second Life. And with or without places like Archan, they’re going to find their voice as sure as water flows downhill.

Much has been written about how avatar sex is the disgusting dark side of Second Life that degrades the entire virtual culture. I think such attitudes ignore some very important facts. Humans are very sexual creatures. If we weren’t, we would be extinct. And once you toss in layer upon layer of social custom and inhibition on top of our natural sex drive you usually end up with this tossed salad of neurosis, fear and sexual bigotry that can even elect Presidents. It’s that powerful.

It’s powerful enough that gays tend to have the highest suicide rate of any cultural demographic in our society due to the shame and judgment laid upon them. Our society has used shame as a tool for controlling people for centuries, but it is also the ultimate tool of destruction. It leads to a denial of self and an alienation from others that is, to me, the single most tragic and unforgivable aspect of our puritanical culture.

Back in the early ’90s, I was a sysop on a Compuserve forum dedicated to Human Sexuality. It was run by Howard Lewis and his wife Martha, a wonderful couple, both psychiatrists and published authors on topics relevant to human sexual psychology. The forum’s focus was on welcoming and engaging all manner of legal sexual proclivities. We had communities of gays, trans-gender/transsexual, BDSM, handicapped, bisexual, and straight people. Each group had their own ‘rooms’ where they could share thoughts and experiences in confidence and nobody was limited to only belonging to one room.

As a sysop, my job was to see that members’ lifestyles were respected. Predators and pedophiles were not welcome. We ran online games, trivia contests, support groups and conferences. Some members met offline. Some got married. Some died and were mourned just as much as if they were family. We were a living, breathing community in every respect and if it was the sexual curiosity that brought us together, it was the camaraderie and tolerant atmosphere that forged the community ties that bound us together.

I learned something very valuable in that experience. I learned that our sexuality is an integral, inseparable part of who we are – part of our soul, for those of you so inclined. The reason we feel shame about sex so easily is because we need to be accepted and loved by others on such a deep level that, when they disparage our fantasies out of their own fear and bigotry it hurts. We take it to heart. To move past that fear and shame is the most liberating experience one can have. To embrace who you are, no matter your proclivity as long as it doesn’t harm anyone, is to become whole again. This is why my philosophy is one of tolerance, of accepting people as they are and of not passing judgment on things I may not understand.

I’ve never understood the view that one’s moral character had something to do with whether you wore women’s underwear or preferred other women or just liked to yodel and wear a batman costume in bed — to me, morality is predicated on things like tolerance, generosity, and kindness. If there is a God, I would hate to think He would judge you for being the way He made you.

I offer all that as a background for the story I’m about to tell and to give you an idea of why I ended up becoming a manager of Second Life’s largest, most active free sex community.

At first, Archan was a quiet, pleasant place. And those who sought us out quickly found out that we didn’t lay around humping like bunnies. Like most Second Life communities we had parties, we danced, we formed friendships. We connected. We shared things we created and we supported each other through difficult personal times. For a long time it was the friendliest place no one knew about.

Then, the Lindens opened free registration. Most of the newbie sims and major clubs in Second Life felt the influx. I witnessed a phenomenon I was very familiar with from my Compuserve days — very often when someone signs onto a new online service, the first thing they type into the search function is “sex”. And one of the first things that came up in SL’s search tool was Archan.

Those of you who have seen my posts on the old Second Life forums or on some of the other boards are familiar with my experiences dealing with griefers. We probably doubled or tripled the griefer incidence experienced by the regular malls and clubs. At one point after open registration, I was filing as many as 10 Abuse Reports in one day for underagers, shootings, bombings and cagings. It was insane and it was ruining the intimate atmosphere we had built in Archan. It was so bad that I expected to have to try between six and a dozen teleports before I could actually enter the sim. It was always full of newbies with their Ruth shapes and plywood prim penises running amok, pushing people around in the crowds. I didn’t feel as though it was a “free sex community” any longer. There was no emotional connection any more with the people who came around. I don’t answer IMs that started out “Hi, wanna fuck?”. It went from being annoying to being ludicrous. It was so bad that the owner, Milosz Milosz and his real-life girlfriend Amber felt that something had to change. I agreed.

Milosz gave serious consideration to shutting down Archan for a month to save money to purchase his own sim but the recent Linden price increase helped to kill that idea.

We struggled with it for too long and I think all of us will admit that. We tried to help some of the newbies. Some of them actually had the curiosity and drive to figure out how to fit in and be good Second Life citizens. We attracted new members from Brazil, Poland, Israel, Japan, Australia and Italy to name a few. Language barriers became an issue to the point that I tried out Hiro’s universal chat translator and found out that our traffic volume overloaded it and broke it.

We were ready to make Archan off limits to those without payment information until we realized that some of our better regulars couldn’t get a payment source that worked in the U.S. When the Lindens raised the ban list limits to 300, we thought that would help — until we cycled through those 300 rows twice, pulling old names off the bottom in order to add a new name at the top. Push restrictions were a major assist since we could relax a bit about people wearing decorative guns as part of their avatar’s look. We joined the SL Banlink project, which offered a shared web database of ban lists so that the same griefer who bombed New Citizens at 9:00 couldn’t come over and bomb Archan at 9:10. We could pick and choose which other sims we wished to share lists with and banned individuals could protest their bans on that site.

Despite these efforts to make Archan more relaxed and comfortable for regulars, there remained the unsettling sense that we had sold our soul to the devil. We had traded our intimate family of friends for 56,000 traffic and a place in the Popular Places Top 10. We were also fed up. It was time for drastic measures.

On Thursday, large signs were placed around the property informing residents that we would become a members-only club on Friday night at 10 PM SL time. If they wanted to join before then, any manager could invite them but there were pre-requisites: One, they must agree to follow our code of conduct. Simple courtesy, consideration and tolerance of others aren’t too much to ask regardless of the nature of the venue.

Milosz placed another set of requirements on membership, one that we thought was pretty simple but which created some disappointment and anger among newbie applicants. We require a “presentable” avatar, one that the resident has obviously spent some care and invested time into improving beyond the basic Ruth and Ken-doll. Fancy skins weren’t needed, but something other than the default skin was strongly encouraged. Prim hair was also encouraged. And last, but not least, we refused to invite anyone who hadn’t at least put their avatar photo in their profile. No more blank grey boxes.

In that 24 hour period of warning, most of the regular members read the signs (they were pretty obvious and plentiful) and asked to join. Many of the newbies, as usual, didn’t even bother to read the signs any more than they had read our rules before. So when 10 PM rolled around, a small group of us gathered on the roof of the main building as Milosz did a countdown. At precisely 10, we saw at least a dozen newbies fly through the air and land in a clump outside of the parcel. There, they milled in confusion for a few minutes. Some wandered off. A few just stood there, stunned.

I felt horrible. Milosz told me not to feel badly – it wasn’t as if they hadn’t had fair warning. But I couldn’t help it. I’m a softie. The clump of disoriented newbies looked like orphaned children to me, naked or not. Ridiculous plywood newbie penises or not. Maybe some of them were salvageable.

Our staff is not without heart. We flew to the clump of newbies and dealt with their protests face-to-face. We handed out notecards explaining the changes. I gave away landmarks to freebie skins and hair and tips on making money. For someone without any payment verification info, even the $10L snapshot upload fee is an obstacle and I think we veterans tend to forget that.

By Saturday morning, the clump of newbies had grown. Every time one of them tried to TP into Archan, it shunted them to the neighbor’s property. We tried to deal with it as best we could, putting up notecard givers for self-service, answering questions, reviewing profiles, even taking the snapshots for them and paying the upload fee from our own pockets if we thought they were worthy membership material. But it was out of control. Most of them didn’t even know how to maneuver their camera, much less take a snapshot or edit their profile.

Someone began spawning those dollar-pyramid prims that have been banned from SL. Someone else came along and started orbiting people. Since the newbies were off of our property they were beyond our protection and out of our control and the prim clutter on the neighbor’s land was disgraceful. We contacted that neighbor (a pretty large real estate merchant) to let them know what happened and tried to remedy the situation. Eventually we came to realize that we had to allow a landing point that was still within Archan power to protect and control. So Milosz allocated a portion of his adjacent land, where we erected our help signs and boxes of giveaway skins, clothing and hair. Red Cross hurricane relief efforts had nothing on us.

By and large, most newborn residents who wanted to enter Archan were at least willing to try. I was touched by the sincerity and eagerness of many of them — not because they were eager to have pixel sex. I can’t count the times I was told that Archan was the friendliest, most entertaining club in Second Life (bear in mind their exposure to the world of SL after 2 days wasn’t exactly large). In a couple of cases where the resident was articulate, polite, sincere and genuinely eager to qualify I even took them to stores and spent some of my own money to upgrade their appearance. One male newbie told me that he liked looking at himself now. He made it to my friends’ list.

Our staff labored around the clock trying to cope with the flood of newbies who were now persona non grata. In some cases, there was no hope – we were cursed and yelled at for denying someone their “rights”. We were accused of all kinds of nefarious motives and a few of the rejected residents screamed that we could “go back to your circle jerk, faggots!“. Obviously, that attitude made the screening process much simpler for us.

As I explained in open chat several times, requiring SL residents to put a little effort into their avatar and their profile is to their own benefit. It’s very tough for people to get to know you if they can’t read a few words and look at whatever photo style or artwork you place in your profile picture — it’s the best ice breaker you can find and it’s easy to do.

It’s now Monday and the pain of this transition isn’t completely over, but the clump of orphans on our border has dwindled noticeably. And I have time to ponder the course of events and its implications.

My first conclusion is that the Lindens’ open registration policy has encouraged many places to become more cliquish and exclusive. There have always been status tiers in SL, just as in any virtual world. Prior to June of 2006 there were the landowners, the rich merchants, and the basic accounts who are just here to play with their friends. There were smaller circles within those groups, like Bartle’s socializers, explorers and the achievers. Open registration added another class – the freebies. Their numbers have highlighted some problems with the structure of Second Life, mainly the inadequacy of Orientation Island and the inability of the grid to cope well with 16,000 concurrent users. It’s been one gigantic stress test on Second Life.

Club and store owners have been left to their own devices on how to deal with the influx, for the most part. Land tools are still not quite adequate. Newbie help is woefully inadequate and Live Help is so overworked I’m not sure why anyone would put themselves through that ordeal. My experiences this past weekend reinforced my own vow to always help newbies who want it, but to never ever volunteer for Live Help. I’m convinced that it would shorten my life by 5 years and turn my hair prematurely gray.

So my theory is that a larger resident population is fracturing Second Life society into something closer to Alvin Toffler’s modular society — special interest groups have always held smaller concentric orbits within the whole. Now we have a larger group in the unverifieds who have a harder time finding their module and figuring out how to fit in. And we have the existing modules, like Archan, who find their resources strained to the limits and are forced to lock the doors to all who don’t know the password.

The future of Second Life may depend on how that class conflict is resolved, if it’s resolved at all. I cannot pin blame on those groups who shut their doors. It’s a normal self-preservation reaction to the situation. And I can’t blame them if they find their available resources inadequate for tutoring a million newbies when the introductory lessons are not enough to even hold a new resident’s attention.

In his town hall last week, Philip Linden said that “LL should not be in our opinion in the middle of arbitration. We need to open up and provide better systems for the community“. His goal is to give users the tools we need to handle our social issues without intervention from Linden Lab. While their efforts to date have not been entirely satisfactory, it’s an understandable and achievable goal.

Perhaps the ultimate solution to this issue is for those of us, like Archan, who deal with large groups of new residents daily to initiate efforts at education — not just how to move the camera, but also how to conduct oneself in Second Life. How to create an avatar that is appealing enough that other residents want to interact with you. How to make your way in a world driven by individual motivation, where those who have the drive and a modicum of skill can earn $Lindens that make their experience more enjoyable and those who don’t try are left to wander homeless and penniless.

Linden Lab isn’t going to do it for us. I would be shocked if I ever saw a major overhaul of Orientation Island. It will ultimately fall to us, the residents, who are under the most pressure to deal with the influx to take steps that will benefit the new people as well as ourselves. After all, we are the Second Life culture. We are the society and it’s our responsibility. We can shirk it and blame the Lindens, but I don’t think we’ll enjoy that outcome.

What Second Life needs now are more central resources for new people. The Shelter, New Citizens’ center, GNUbie store and Yadni’s Junkyard are great starts. The classes at Teazer’s Island are great, but what we need are instructional methods that new residents know are available at the moment they need them. I’ve begun a collection of helpful notecards that I pass out as a folder, along with folders of landmarks for freebie gear and tutorials on building, scripting, or design. I’ve found that while there is plentiful free hair and skins available for new female avatars, there’s precious little available for males. Most of the male newbies don’t care for the free skins at GNUbie store because they have underwear painted on the skin. They’re born into this world as Barbie and Ken clones the way it is, why should they want to upgrade to the Politically Correct Barbie of 2006?

I have a request and an offer to those of you who are reading this. My offer is that I will be glad to pass along my newbie help cards to anyone who wants them, free of charge. I wrote “How to Make Money in Second Life“, which lists a number of methods and cautions against some others. I started “Landmarks for New Residents” which was subsequently merged with Wildefire Walcott’s notecard and which I’ve updated recently – it includes the central directory room for money trees at Garmisch (47, 209, 167) and some stores which recently set out free gift boxes of hair and skins for new people. I also have available “How to Update your Profile“, detailed instructions on camera movement and placing a picture in the SL profile.

My request is this: If you know of any free male skins which are more detailed than the default Ken skin, I would sincerely appreciate some copy/trans copies to give away to deserving new people. I have landmarks for free prim hair, but if you know of others please send them to me. More than anything else, however, if you offer any services that new residents might find helpful I’d like to know. I am always happy to share the information I have without any expectations of compensation.I feel obliged to help because I love this virtual world of ours and I think we can make it work, with or without the full support of the Lindens.

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November 27, 2006 - Posted by | Second Life

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  1. […] Cindy Claveau, head manager of the community, details in a post the measures Archan had to take and the subsequent fallout it had to deal with after cutting off open access. Archan is owned by SL resident MilosZ Milosz and its facilities include a chalet house on the beach and a Spanish villa. Cindy writes: On Thursday, large signs were placed around the property informing residents that we would become a members-only club on Friday night at 10 PM SL time. If they wanted to join before then, any manager could invite them but there were pre-requisites: One, they must agree to follow our code of conduct. Simple courtesy, consideration and tolerance of others aren’t too much to ask regardless of the nature of the venue. Milosz placed another set of requirements on membership, one that we thought was pretty simple but which created some disappointment and anger among newbie applicants. We require a “presentable” avatar, one that the resident has obviously spent some care and invested time into improving beyond the basic Ruth and Ken-doll. […]

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  2. Cindy is too much of a softie, but that’s why we all love her so much. It was a tough thing to go private, there was discussion and debate among the managers and some of the well-known regulars, and in the end, this decision was reached. Archan would go private. There were many motivations for this, and we do try to make it fairly easy for people to join… Alicia stocked a box full of goodies right at the landing pad to help people upgrade their avatars, and all the managers spend a great deal of time answering IMs, teaching people how to do things like adding pics to profiles, reviewing people at the landing pad, and dealing with the griefers who are upset about the change and want to come cause problems. We get dozens of IMs built up every time we log out, and just this morning, MilosZ said that he had capped the max # of IMs received. Try to bear with us if we don’t answer you instantly, and don’t take offense if we say you need to work on your avatar some more. If you ask, we’re more that likely to help you do so. We do like you, whether you are an old regular or a new visitor who is willing to put in the effort to join. If you need help, have questions, or want to find out a bit more about what Archan is about, drop by and send one of the managers an IM. We look forward to meeting you.

    Comment by Lec Huygens | November 28, 2006 | Reply

  3. i always enjoy anything cindy writes…i’m glad to find my way here.
    thanks, cindy
    -montie

    Comment by sparrowhawk perhaps | November 29, 2006 | Reply

  4. Thanks Cindy for sharing your insightful perspective on the change at Archan. As a frequent visitor who elected not to apply for membership, it’s comforting and uplifting to hear your personal feelings, not only on the events that took place, but also about some of Archan’s deeper objectives, which I for one, had never considered. And to hear the background of what Archan staff had to deal with through the “problem times” as well as your own feelings and actions immediately after the ‘closing countdown’ gave me solace knowing that there were ‘good hearts’ behind the actions.

    Upon first learning of the plans to move Archan, I absolutely felt it was the right decision seeing as how the atmosphere at Archan had quickly changed in the short time that I had been able to experience it, due of course to the surge in SL residents over the past few months. However, when the initial announcement was posted, I was disheartened to read the restrictions that would be imposed. Mind you, I feel that restrictions were necessary in executing the change and move of Archan for the betterment of those who truly partake of what it has to offer, and the restrictions were not the reasons for my not becoming a member, but I did feel saddened by the ‘message’ conveyed in the announcement signage.

    I felt the principals behind the restrictions for having one’s appearance meet a standard for a “presentable avatar” and “being respectful of others” seemed to fly in the face of some of the intended objectives in SL and for Archan. I loathed at the thought that if someone truly was happy with a particular avatar that was perceived as a “Ruth-Ken” appearance; they might be denied membership over someone with a “BW” appearance because they did not meet the subjective review of a particular manager. As a design professional in RL, subjugating one’s own perspective of taste and acceptability to the subjective review of another can be the most debilitating consequences to creativity and free thought.

    And although I do understand the basis behind the restriction to maintain courtesy and consideration of others, I think at a deeper level, a lot of the tête à tête repartee amongst the “regulars”, which I found the most intriguing of my experience at Archan, probably would not meet that standard.

    My own thought is that if membership was solely restricted to those who would at least fill out their profiles, the membership list could then be utilized to document and restrict or ban those that didn’t follow posted rules. I would think that nearly all ‘griefers’ would avoid having to go through the profile process & being listed on a membership roster if their sole intent was to cause trouble. But then again, I could be wrong and the issues that I noted may no longer be existant and the current experience at Archan may have reverted to what was ultimately desired. And believe me, my desire for this reply is not intended to ‘whine’ about the situation, but only to provide another view on the matter of principal. Because ultimately, I think many of us hope that SL can develop into a society that corrects a lot of our perceived “ills” in RL.

    As for myself, my own reasons for not becoming a member were based on personal issues not related to those noted above. And now reading about some of the altruistic intentions of Archan, I ultimately feel that I am probably not the ‘right fit’ for Archan. But I so truly hope the best for Archan and those that I was able to strike up some connections with. Although it may have not been the intent, I felt the strength & energy of Archan resides within the personalities of its managers and the community of ‘regulars’ which developed a nearly 24/7 forum of global interaction. Certainly the level & intensity seemed to have gotten beyond control, but the restrictions have seemed to do the trick as I’ve noticed that Archan no longer appears on the most Popular Places search list and population counts on the Archan sim have dropped considerably from the daily counts prior the Nov. 25th. So my ultimate wish is that all the ‘good hearts’ of Archan have the SL experience that they ultimately desire.

    Now I move on in my own forays and pursuits in SL taking with me my avatar’s persona and purpose, which I proudly acknowledge developed directly as a result of my experiences and interactions with people at Archan and which helped me see what I know now I can enjoy from SL. And knowing that, I will truly miss that energy & those personalities that I loved about Archan, but as in RL we ‘move on’ because I know that “if my baby don’t love me no mo’…..I know her sister will…”
    [Kimo Paklena shouts: “Happy Belated Birthday Jimi!”]

    Aloha no,
    Kimo P.

    Comment by Kimo P. | November 29, 2006 | Reply

  5. Kimo, thank you (and everyone else!) for your feedback. You raised a point that I think deserves further comment, specifically regarding the impression that we are prejudicial toward avatar appearance. You’re not the first one to raise the point with me or the other managers.

    Let it be known first that we count among our members several people who have furry, transformer, dragon or tiny avatars. We don’t consider anthropomorphism to be the end-all standard for avatars at all, nor do most of the non-human avatars engage in some kind of weird pixel bestiality :) What we were after in imposing this standard was to encourage new members to put a little effort into how they looked but MOST importantly to express their own personality in designing their avatar and in creating their profile.

    What we saw was a large percentage of the newbies entering Welcome Island, skipping the tutorials and jumping straight to wherever their search for “sex” led them. You wouldn’t believe the number of times we ran into residents who didn’t know how to use IMs, didn’t know how to view their own profile, had no idea that you could actually get decent free stuff in SL much less how to use animations or inventory. We feel that these changes have helped redress that problem to a great extent. The people who belong to Archan now at least know how to upload screenshots, maneuver the camera and open their inventory.

    Mostly, though, by putting criteria on membership I think we’ve also imposed a minor test on new people – if you want something badly enough, you will learn how to get it. You will end up with fewer members, perhaps, but the members you get will be more highly motivated, more intelligent and friendlier for the most part. As a testament to the success of this policy, since the club threw the switch Friday night I have filed 2 ARs against griefers in the last 5 days and none since Monday. What’s more, my friends list is undergoing a nice expansion with some really nice new people who I would never have interacted with otherwise.

    I hope when your personal situation permits, that you IM one of us managers to come back and sample the “new” Archan, Kimo. I think you’ll enjoy what you find.

    Comment by Cindy | November 29, 2006 | Reply

  6. Ah, finally remembered to come check this out. Yes, it was the right thing to do, and I expect other clubs will start going private as well. Going by group membership also skirts the lame limits LL puts on access/ban lists.

    I had completely stopped going to archan once it hit ‘popular places.’ It wasn’t fun to be there with all the obvious kids and griefy people about. Now it’s (hopefully) just going to be serious folks- or people who take their play seriously, rather.

    I also fully support the direction of heading toward a private sim. The mainland sucks. Period.

    Comment by Wildefire Walcott | December 1, 2006 | Reply

  7. I love reading your words when you write about something from the heart Cindy.

    I realize it’s a very little thing, but I do have one copiable/transferable male skin in my inventory and when I come online tonight I will send it to you. And did you try talking to Lupus? He has a box of free skins and clothing that he put together, specifically sorting out only the actually useful stuff.

    If you wouldn’t mind, I’d love a copy of your notecards and information to be able to pass out at Forum. We get at least three or four brand new people each day.

    “I also fully support the direction of heading toward a private sim. The mainland sucks. Period.”

    When we opened Forum we elected to go with an island instead of the mainland because we predicted having the same problems. It shouldn’t have to be that way. It’s terribly sad to me that it is.

    I remember the first “home” that I had by myself after I left the initial security of my friend’s castle. I rented a little cottage on the mainland, nice neighbors, almost the illusion of privacy at times. I had the occasional nitwit walk in and act up, but nothing like what people are dealing with now. Now everyone has ban lines and teleport home security scripts and it’s not because they’re antisocial, it’s just because they want five minutes without being assaulted. Being on the mainland is a very very different experience than it was even a year ago.

    I think the management at Archan made the right choice and while the immediate results were chaotic and difficult, hopefully the end result will be to once again have the kind of place you always wanted and a place that becomes special to many Second Life residents.

    Comment by Allana Dion | December 1, 2006 | Reply

  8. […] The Archan Story […]

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  9. I hope you don’t mind…

    http://www.allanadion.com/?p=40

    :-)

    Comment by Allana Dion | December 1, 2006 | Reply

  10. My husband has just recently left us a family (3) kids. He has been playing sencond life and it has litterally taken over his life. I am sure that you a good reason for providing these types of services. But did it ever occur to anyone that some people just might take it too far. I know he is member of your group and I sad to say that we have lost him to a sex filled virtual world.

    Comment by Allie | December 5, 2006 | Reply

  11. Well, when I read your Archan story, I thought that this might be a place in which I would have an interest. It sounded like an accepting community of like-minded people. So I looked it up on Search, with the intention of joining, and I found this:

    “Members only club for consenting adults. Hot Girls! Best Looking! swings,sluts,fuck,strippers,porn,xxx,free sex, free, sex”

    And you are surprised you get griefers? I am surprised you are surprised. :)

    As far as Allie’s comment above, that is like blaming the whisky distillers for a person’s alcoholism, or the car for a person’s death in an accident. As far as I am concerned, the responsibility for Allie’s problem lies with one person, and one person alone: her husband. I am sorry for your problem, Allie, and I appreciate how tough it must be. :( But the problem lies at home rather than elsewhere.

    Comment by Selador | December 11, 2006 | Reply

  12. I was a bit surprised to read “the mainland sucks”. When looking to buy land I have been avoiding private islands with their convenants “subject to change”. I don’t want to submit myself to a dictatorial sim owner because he happens to be able to afford to pump US$295/month into the game.

    I also hate the landowners who put “No Access” walls around their houses. To me this comes across as very unfriendly behaviour towards your neighbors and to passers-by. Often it causes me trouble just to fly from one place to another place I can clearly see in the distance, because I keep on flying into these hardly invisible walls.

    Griefers I meet rarely, maybe once a week some salesman comes to my house trying to sell me something useless. But I admit, I don’t have a large sign on my house that reads “FREE SEX”…

    Archan sounds like a nice place to me. I may come and have a look at it. And I do understand you need to be restrictive in allowing people in if you want to run a place like that.

    Comment by Evelien | December 14, 2006 | Reply

  13. *scratches his head*

    Comment by Monitored Surveillance | January 16, 2007 | Reply

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